The Best Thing About Overcoming Porn Addiction

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Well, I’ve managed to trim down on porn use by going straight into the bedroom to get the deed done, and not sit at the computer. This is also helpful for getting to sleep- you’re in bed anyway, and you’re comfortable, and you’re not looking at screens, that being a main obstacle. Give it a shot.

Psychotherapist JM says I don’t have to tell everyone everything about my problems (obviously not, seeing as they largely involve porn) but mental issues and relaxation are also issues I struggle with- she reminded me I don’t have to go into detail about those either. Just mention them and move on.

Her advice with dating: be spontaneous. Don’t plan days in advance- do something now. That would be useful advice, but Plenty of Fish didn’t have any fit girls on it and Tinder still doesn’t work. Baa Bar Girl stopped talking to me for a week (she replied yesterday) and I haven’t met anyone else. I’ve been out a few times and approached the odd girl / been introduced to friends here and there, but nothing has really happened. I’ve completely lost the enthusiasm for dating sites: I’d rather just meet people in person. But where, other than bars and clubs that no-one can afford to go to?

Well, I have found a “trendy bars” social group, so I’ll meet with them and see how that goes, but other than that, not a great deal.

There’s a more positive note to the tackling of my problems that I’ve only recently realised, and I’ll try to explain it here.

Addiction causes depression. Whatever you’re addicted to, that stimulus will flood your brain with endorphins and your brain will want more of that stimulus to receive the same hit. So if it’s porn, your brain wants stronger and stronger material as time goes on, and other pleasures- music, films, exercise, food- they feel less significant. You forget about them. Ultimately, being away from that source of pleasure puts you on a horrible downer.

The trick to coming out of that downer- to get yourself to a more positive state and to not feel the urge to watch porn- is just to enjoy yourself more. To treat yourself to life’s other pleasures. In which other scenario does a doctor tell you that your cure to your problem will be enjoying yourself? Addiction is depressing as hell, but the upside is that- unlike cures for diseases or broken limbs or other mental issues- the cure to addiction is more pleasure. Why am I sat on this couch watching this movie? Because I’ve GOT to. My doctor says so. Why am I eating this one junk-food meal of the week? I’m allowed. I’m not just allowed, I HAVE to, to get better.

Also, Baa Bar Girl is coming around tonight so the pleasure I could be getting could be better than I’ve had in a long time…

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