How do you tell your family what your porn addiction therapy sessions are?

Felix Guattari, French institutional psychotherapist

Felix Guattari, French institutional psychotherapist

It’s certainly a tough one. Admitting to your family that you have banana penis or that you can’t orgasm during sex because of the brain-rottingly large amount of hard porn you’ve been watching over the last 7 years is not easy. Admitting it to the therapist isn’t either. But having regular sessions means you’re busy at certain times during the week, so they’re going to find out a certain amount for themselves. They’ll be thinking, what is he DOING every Wednesday afternoon? I’m no expert, but you might be wondering, what did I do in this situation?

Well, I told my parents it’s “confidence building”. That’s a pretty accurate description. It leaves out a lot of detail, obviously, but it’s family-safe. I told them what I felt was appropriate from the sessions that I had with JM. We’d discussed opening new social circles. I’d explained that I needed to treat myself more. That it was helping with insomnia (which it may be). That I’d had to go to a second GP to get the referral (the first one, my mum agreed, is quite useless.)

The key is to put a positive spin on the situation. Don’t mention porn. Don’t mention depression. Just mention where it’s sending you. It’s to give you more confidence, to help you meet more people, to make you more decisive and- if you want to risk it- by getting out of bad habits and into good ones. (Be ready for them to ask you what bad habits. For me, my safe answer was “cut down on social media”.)

In essence, positivity can get you places. It’s not psycho-babble- the clichéd PMA can improve your situation, and can also allow you to cover your back.

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